21 Apr Looking To Lose Weight? – Stop Acting Like A Five year Old!
I have been working with a number of people over the years that come to me looking to lose weight, and they come from all walks of life. Whether they are stay at home mum’s, CEOs, small business owners, athletes or returning war veterans, everyone who isn’t seeing success in their weight loss journey (or trying to achieve any goal for that matter) shares one common trait.
They complain and need to stop acting like a five year old!
What do I mean?
Let me take you on a journey, back to when you were five, and tell me if this sounds familiar.
You are at school and playing with your friends at recess and your best friend reaches into his bag and pulls out the latest G.I Joe and proudly shows it off to everyone. You get to play with it for a few minutes and you decide then and there, YOU MUST HAVE ONE!
You cannot wait to get home that afternoon to run to Mum and Dad and plead your case to why your life will end if you do not get the new G.I Joe figurine. You have a super kind mother, who politely sits there and listens to your request, all the while knowing she is going to say no. Your heart is full of hopes and dreams and just as you finish speaking, your mother utters those words that you know lead down the path to a big resounding NO.
“Go ask your father, and if he says yes, then it is OK by me.”
You know full well that going to your father is an automatic no, so you begin your three-stage tantrum.
Stage 1. You begin with the bottom lip quiver and produce a tear or two, for good measure. However, your tears and quivering lip doesn’t work this time and so… you escalate.
Stage 2. Time to take it up a notch. This is no ordinary toy. It isn’t cheap and it will take a little more than just a tear and quivering lip to crack Mum this time. You move to holding your breath and slamming your hands on the ground. You begin to turn a bright red as the tears stream down your cheeks. Still your mother does not budge and she is standing firm. Time to bring out the big guns and go all out and move into Stage 3 (you have only ever moved into stage three once in your life, and that was to convince mum and dad to get you a puppy for Christmas).
Stage 3. You go straight for the jugular and hit Mum where you know it hurts her. The tears stop, you get your breath back and say those words you know your mother cannot take.
“I HATE YOU AND I WISH YOU WERE DEAD”
Maybe you didn’t go as far as saying you wish your mother was dead, but you went in on her heart strings and you knew it would hit her deep and would give you the best chance at getting your hands on that G.I Joe figurine.
Maybe it worked, and maybe it didn’t, however I think many of you can relate to this scenario and participated in some version of it in your younger years.
The problem is, many of you are yet to grow up and still throw tantrums to this very day. Sure, you might not hold your breath until you turn blue when your boss asks you to do something you don’t want to, however, we still have very similar reactions when we are told NO.
My wife wrote something on the Start Late, Stay Light Facebook Group the other week (you can check out the picture below to read what she said) and it is what sparked the idea to write this article.
We are so used to being able to get whatever we want and whenever we want it. It is rare, in this day and age that we go without. We are so used to having it all, or at the very least expecting to have it all, and worst of all we believe that we are entitled to it or that it is owed to us. Many of you will agree with me and probably blame Millennials for this kind of behavior; however, we are ALL guilty of this and we can’t just blame the “younger generation”.
It comes in many forms and I have seen them all;
Using the excuse that you can’t afford a personal trainer, yet are happy to eat out 3 times a week and have a cable TV platinum package.
When asked to give up chocolate and alcohol while on your weight loss program to reach your goal weight, you tell me every reason why you think it’s unfair, “that life is to be enjoyed and you shouldn’t need to be so strict…”
My favourite of all, you have no time, and yet are happy to sleep in until 7.30am or watch full seasons of Game of Thrones in the evening. Saying you have no time is just the adult version of “the dog ate my homework”. I wrote a great article on this and if you are someone who is always saying you have no time you should have a read of it HERE
What is my point with this article?
It is time to stop COMPLAINING and start DOING!
If you are sitting there, wanting to lose weight, get into shape and feel healthy (or even if you are the small percentage that want to “get shredded” and look like you belong on the cover of a health fitness magazine), stop complaining about how you can’t do something or how you wish you were at your dream weight/shape. This is acting like a 5-year-old. Start DOING what is needed to get you to the goals you desire.
You won’t always want to do it, and I get that.
I am sure you will be thinking that it’s easy for me to say, as it’s my job to eat well and stay in shape, and I get that. However, I have goals just like you, that push and challenge me every day, and there are days when all I want to do, is stay in bed or go to my favourite burger place.
The challenges I go through are the same as those of a client that is new to dieting or new to lifting weights. There are, for sure, days that you do not feel like going to the gym. You might think that missing that one workout is not going to make any difference in the long run, and you know what… you would be right in thinking this. However, that one missed workout or one burger on its own might not have a direct negative effect, however it sets a precedent that allows your mind to think it is OK and you will be much more likely to do it again in the future.
Again I say, stop acting like a 5 year old and telling me why you can’t do something, or complaining about why your life is so much worse off than everyone else’s and just go and do it and create the life you want to live. You don’t just deserve, or are certainly never entitled to, a better life just because you were born. Grab life by the scruff of the neck, work your ass off and start putting in the effort and earn the right to a Happier, Healthier and Better Life. Otherwise you are just going to wind up old, bitter, miserable and worst of all regretful about all the things in life you wish you had done.
I heard a great quote the other day and it rang so true to me and I want to share it with you as a final comment to this post.
“Doing shit you don’t want to do consistently, leads to a better life. PERIOD.” (Or even better, watch the video by clicking HERE)
If you take nothing else away from this article, please understand this. I know I sound preachy and probably sound like I am complaining myself, however, I want all of you SO BADLY to realise just how good life is and how taking care of your health will allow you to live a long and happy life to enjoy doing all the things you love doing with the people you love the most. If you want to achieve your weight loss goals, quit that job you hate or achieve anything worth doing, understand that you will Have To Do Things You Don’t Want To Do.
If you can stop acting like a five year old and get comfortable doing things you don’t want to do, have patience and are willing to put in the work, I promise you the dream body and dream life you have always wanted is just around the corner waiting for you.